Are you vain?
Five questions to determine if your are:
Vain, Normal or a Beauty denier
The vanity scale
Excessive or overly positive pride
We've all met people who seem to think they've been selected by the mirror on the wall as being the fairest of them all.
They often make an unduly favorable estimation of their looks, abilities or worth.
Their thinking is often reflected in their attitude towards others.
The people they meet may feel rejected and treated with disdain, arrogance or contempt.
Vanity can be defined this way:
An excessive pride in one's appearance or accomplishments.
Additionally, vanity is often associated with:
pointlessness, futility, worthlessness, ...
Are you proud of your appearance?
Vain people are overly proud of their appearance.
Normal people take care of their appearance and are justly proud of it.
People who deny beauty aren't proud of their appearance.
Do you embellish yourself artificially?
Do you try to achieve beauty artificially, by wearing or relying on:
•Accessories: hats, sunglasses, ...
•Jewelry, watches, ...
•Artificial creams and products
•Tattooing and piercing
•Nail polish and lipstick
Vain people wear the most expensive outfits and decorate themselves with all kinds of accessories and make-up.
Normal people don't disguise themselves or hide behind clothes, accessories or make-up.
People who deny beauty wear expensive, but ugly, outfits and decorate themselves with ugly accessories, tattoos and make-up.
Do you feel that your beauty puts you above others?
Does your beauty put you in a special class?
Do you treat others with hauteur?
Do you shut people out?
Vain people feel that their beauty makes them superior to other humans.
Normal people, even if they recognize the value of beauty, socialize with everybody, whatever their look. But, they reject vain people.
People who deny beauty stay away from the beautiful crowd.
They congregate with other uglies with warped aesthetics.
Do you put lots of time taking care of your beauty?
Vain people put lots of time and effort working on their looks.
Unfortunately, they don't work on their body; they try to decorate it instead.
Normal people take good care of their body and that takes lots of time.
People who deny beauty don't care about their body, but they will spend some time disguising it.
Do you rely on others to take care of your beauty?
Vain people frequently visit beauty salons, spas and gyms.
They rely on specialists for every aspect of their fake beauty.
Normal people take care of their beauty and body themselves.
People who deny beauty rely on specialists with a twisted version of beauty.
Personal care for social acceptance
Primates spend hours, every day, grooming themselves and others.
Being watchful of one's appearance is at the basis of social living.
Some daily activities, such as taking a bath or a shower, washing your hair, brushing your teeth, combing your hair, ... cannot be considered as vain.
In fact, personal hygiene is an essential part of living in society and people who are too careless about themselves are rejected.
Individuals who take care of their appearance are better accepted by others. They also attract more mates.
Vain or artificial?
Being proud of your appearance is normal, mostly when you've put some time and effort to attain your present state of beauty.
But, your quest should concentrate on your physical body and mind, not on accessories and cover-ups.
Your looks should not be obtained through artificial means.
© Jeremy Brooks
Is what people see of you artificial?
If you use these artificial shortcuts to beauty; you're not only vain, you're a fake.
Beauty is natural, and you should concentrate your efforts on your body instead.
Vanity and clothes
Clothes are a great human invention when they are worn to protect oneself against the elements.
It's a very different situation when they are used to embellish or to hide the body.
I can understand why people try to dissimulate an ugly body with beautiful clothes.
However, I don't think this way of acting makes sense.
It's like hiding the dirt beneath the carpet.
Work on yourself instead.
Be proud of your body, not of the junk you put over it.
Add grooming to your list of activities
Humans have stopped grooming, possibly a few million years ago.
This way, they've freed up one or two hours every day for other activities.
But the consequences of this decision on their beauty, well-being and aging are disastrous.
Now, grooming is back.
The time has come for us all to return to this natural activity.
Taking care of your body is not vain
Protecting and preserving what God has given you surely isn't vain.
Your skin is in such bad condition that only frequent and long-time treatments can cure it.
Grooming certainly takes time, but you are well rewarded for your efforts by public acceptance and pain-free well-being.
When someone is in pain and grooms for hours to find relief, no one can consider these actions as vain.
Grooming is a natural method of caring for your body that results in real well-being and beauty.